Sunday, September 27, 2009

Hard Getting Out of Bed?

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"and you think you had a hard time getting out of bed this morning"
Do you ever get tired or discouraged, and then it gets you in a bad mood?
This is probably one of the main things that affects our attitude; at our job and in our home.

Getting tired or discouraged can happen to even the most positive person, but the main thing we always have to REMEMBER is:



Getting over this bad mood quickly is the ultimate goal, but sometimes it does have to take its course; but remember, the longer it takes, the worse off you and everyone around you are.

They always say a great breakfast is the best way to start a great day!

Start Your Day with the 5-5-5 Breakfast Plan:
5 MINUTES in the morning before you get out of bed think about

5 THINGS that you are thankful for that day and do this

5 DAYS a week

For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?" ~William A. Ward

Or sometimes you have to get hit over the head with a sack of bricks to snap out of it, which is what happened to me.

Let me share with you how I snapped out of my bad mood this weekend: REAL FAST.
I was tired, and it turned into a bad mood; so I started out my Saturday having a bad morning; and my son needed to go to the mall and get something for school. I really did not feel like it, but we went anyway and when I was walking through the mall I saw a Poster for CHOC Children's Hospital, and there was a little girl about 6 who had cancer and the caption underneath said "and you think you had a hard time getting out of bed this morning". My heart just dropped, I felt so guilty and ashamed of myself; how could I be having a bad day? I don’t even know what a bad day is compared to this little baby.

Then that night my Husband took me to a big fund raising event for CHOC Children's Hospital. (Yes, the same hospital on the Poster; do you think someone was trying to tell me something?)

The Guest of Honor was my husbands’ good friend and one of the top Pediatric Neurosurgeons in the world, and he brought along 4 of his patients: little children who have had brain cancer and are in remission. These little children didn’t even have their hair grown back yet; and you could still see the scars on their heads from their surgeries. I was feeling so sad for them and their parents; but, they weren't feeling sorry for themselves, and they had every right to; instead, they were having a great time laughing and eating and truly enjoying themselves. As I watched, I realized these kids really have life in perspective; and if we could just learn from them the most valuable life lesson; "Every day is a blessing, and to be thankful every day, for all of our blessings."

When we were children we were grateful to those who filled our stockings at Christmas time. Why are we not grateful to God for filling our stockings with legs? ~G.K. Chesterton

I guarantee I will get a reality check real fast, and get my attitude adjusted quickly when I am having one of my so called bad days, just by remembering those little children and that poster of the sick little girl that said,
"and you think you had a hard time getting out of bed this morning".

with love,
Tammy Taylor

Psalms 107:1
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever.

2009 International Training

2009 International Training – Irvine, California

Tammy welcomes everyone and Tammy and kicks off our Back to Basics training

Tammy welcomes everyone and kicks off our Back to Basics training

Mary reviewing teaching tools
Mary reviewing teaching tools

We had an AMAZING International Training class
in California!

Mary and Yvette
Mary and Yvette

Mary Stokus (my Director of Education) and myself kicked off the class talking about our need to get “Back to Basics.”

Yiza assisting in the classroom
Yiza assisting in the classroom

Success is Building Relationships – and being in touch with our clients – in any type of economy!

Happy classmates!
Happy classmates!

We need to get back to the “Grass Roots” of what makes our business successful, teaching Nail Techs how they can make a living doing nails no matter what country they live in.

Graciela (Italy) and Tammy
Graciela (Italy) and Tammy

When our International Team teaches classes; does in-Salon demonstrations and exhibits at tradeshows they are building their relationships with their Nail Techs.

Micaela and Sandra (Spain)
Micaela and Sandra (Spain)

We did classes focusing on the NEW Soak-Off Nail Gel, Spa Manicures and Pedicures, Business Marketing, Prizma Nails, Pink & White Sculptured Nails and much more.

Jan (Denmark) and Burton (Trinidad)
Jan (Denmark) and
Burton (Trinidad)

We also had our entire International Team involved doing mini-classes for each other. What a BLAST that was, to see all the different personalities and how they do classes in their country, and it really helped to give everyone a lot of different ideas!

Odale (Trinidad) and Yashika (Jamaica)
Odale (Trinidad) and
Yashika (Jamaica)

We had team building games (that was some heated competition!)

Nicole (Bahamas) and Morayma (Bonaire)
Nicole (Bahamas) and
Morayma (Bonaire)

Another great thing was with the entire International Team staying in the same hotel they were really able to get to know each other (and there were delicious fresh cookies every night before they went to bed).

Jun and Peggy (Taiwan)
Jun and Peggy (Taiwan)

What a WONDERFUL time we all had building our relationships with “OUR TAMMY TAYLOR INTERNATIONAL TEAM"; but there was one sad thing, it went by too quickly.

We miss all of you!!!

With love,
Tammy Taylor

Paula (New Zealand) and Nina (Germany)
Paula (New Zealand) and
Nina (Germany)

Darrell and Sarah (Ireland) and Vanessa (Bahamas)
Darrell and Sarah (Ireland) and
Vanessa (Bahamas)

Panagiotis (Greece) and Danielle (Belgium)
Panagiotis (Greece) and
Danielle (Belgium)

Chatting at break time
Chatting at break time

Back to the hard work
Back to the hard work

Christine (New Zealand) and Darlene (St Thomas)
Christine (New Zealand) and
Darlene (St Thomas)

Claudia (Germany) and Yasmin (Greece)
Claudia (Germany) and
Yasmin (Greece)

Odale, Morayma, Tammy and Rose-Anne (St Maarten)
Odale, Morayma, Tammy and
Rose-Anne (St Maarten)

Team A in our contest
Team A in our contest

Team B in our contest
Team B in our contest

Ed Sr assisting with Class training
Ed Sr assisting with
Class training

Class International Team 2009
Class International Team 2009

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Hard Decisions...

Hard Decisions
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Have you ever found yourself doing a lot for someone and you end up spoiling them? And then, they turn around and get mad at you? You think to yourself "why are they acting like this, I did everything in the World for this person"! (Stop there)
  • That is where the problem started: "you did everything in the World for this person."

When you start doing everything for someone, and they no longer take care of things themselves, they will start blaming you whenever anything goes wrong.

They don't see it as you are helping them; they see it as "you have to do this for me because you always do it for me" (sounds like a spoiled child, BUT... they are grown-ups).
Tammy Taylor
And... When people become spoiled they get resentful when you don't do everything they expect you to do; and eventually they could get ANGRY.

Have you ever made any of these excuses below for family members, friends, co-workers or employees:

  • They are having a lot of personal problems, so I do not want to put too much pressure on them to do a better job.

    Even though you know everyone else has a lot more pressure on them then that person does.

  • They have not been able to get their work done, so I am going to do their extra work for them, since it is easier for me to do it.

    Even though you know you are staying at work long after they leave so you can get their job done. ·

  • You cover for them when they make mistakes, because you don't want them to get in trouble.

    Even though you know you will probably get in trouble when everyone finds out you have been covering for them. ·

  • They have a lot going on at home, so I am not going to ask them to help out.

    Even though you know everyone else is helping out.

  • They aren't as talented as some of the other people, so I am not going to expect a lot.

    Even though you know they will never be able to do anything if you do not expect more from them.

How about EXCUSES for family and friends like:

  • They are having financial struggles, so I am going to let them move in for awhile.

    Even though you have tried this before, and you know they will not offer to help out around the house or with any of the bills or groceries. ·

  • They are having personal problems, so I need to spend a lot of time with them to try and fix their problems.

    Even though you know you will probably not be able to fix all their problems and you will end up sacrificing all the precious time and energy that you would usually spend with your own family.

  • They are behind on their rent and bills, so I need to help get them caught up.

    Even though you will have to put your own bills off a month, and then you get behind.

  • They have a hard time keeping a job, so I need to keep helping them out until they find a job they like.

    Even though you know they have a hard time getting along with people, and it is always everyone else’s fault they quit or they lose their job.

    You cannot spoil people and think they will work harder, or help you more: They won't! Instead they do the opposite; and then they start expecting it.

You have a better shot at cutting it off right now; even though they are going to be kicking and screaming, than to wait any longer: Because the longer you wait the worse it gets.

Know that getting them un-spoiled is the best thing you could ever do for them.

You can always be there for them, and talk to them when they need:

  • advice, or a
  • pick-me-up

But... you can no longer:

  • Babysit them
  • Financially Support them
  • Spoil them
  • Hover over them (like a helicopter parent)

Even if you see them falling down, just "encourage" them, they will get back up.

Yes, we need to help people, but we cannot spoil them, or we will ruin the relationship either sooner or later.

The best thing for us is to "figure out" who we are doing this to, whether at work or at home. And then start one-step-at-a-time, working towards un-spoiling them.

If you are doing this because you think they will Love you more, think twice: because it usually turns into Resentment when you don't do "everything" they have come to expect you to do.

If you start now, at un-spoiling them, you will probably be able to salvage the relationship, and even build a new Healthier & Stronger relationship.

How to START: Instead of the standard answer "YES", with a random "No"; make the standard answer "NO", and a random "Yes". Do: "One-thing-a-day", so you do not send them into withdrawals, and before you know it, you can turn it around.

Be ready though, in case they do not want to be your friend for awhile, or if they resent you for a while, but... one Day they will eventually Grow Up, and will realize you were only helping them.

The un-spoiling is very difficult for a caring and loving person to do, but it is much healthier and better for everyone involved.

with love,
Tammy Taylor

My girlfriends and I always say "please, always tell me the truth, even if it hurts my feelings, because later I will thank you for it".

And we like to follow it with this verse:

Proverbs 27:6
Faithful [are] the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy [are] deceitful.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Business is Personal

The way we conduct ourselves in our personal life mirrors how we conduct ourselves in our business life, and, vice versa.

Relationships in our work and in our home are mirrors of us, because we are the same person whether we are working or at home.

Quote from John Chrysostom, the 4th Century bishop known for his Tammy Tayloreloquent preaching: "The human family is the primary and essential element of society. Peace in society will be the direct result of peace in the family; order and harmony in the political realm will be a direct result of order and harmony in the home."

If what goes on in one's family has an impact on peace in the world, it attaches a broader meaning to the struggle to resolve conflict in relationships.

I remember one day I was talking to a friend of mine who I love to talk to, because he is very wise, and always gives me a different perspective on looking at the world.
- He said “Never say anything bad about your spouse to anyone, because it makes you look really bad and not very smart, because you are the one married to them; however, when you say good things about your spouse, you look really good, because you are smart enough to have such a wonderful spouse."

I took this to heart and I started thinking: not only is this about a spouse, this is about everyone we have relationships with, including those we work with.
Here are just a few scenarios this could apply to:

Someone starts saying...
I work for a horrible person
I work with horrible people
I have horrible in-laws
I have horrible neighbors
I have horrible children

Saying bad things makes the person saying them look bad, and it looks like they cannot get along with anyone. It does not make the person they are talking about look bad, it actually makes people feel bad for the person or persons being talked about.

"The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people."

– Theodore Roosevelt

5 Ways to Help People "Like" To Be Around You
  1. Do not try to outshine those around you
  2. Make others around you look good
  3. Do extra things that no one expects you to do
  4. Come up with solutions to problems; do not be the cause of the problem
  5. Stick up for the people around you

In 2002 USA Today, did a study about what makes people happy. The study found that 85 percent of your happiness comes from your relationships with other people. On the other hand the study found that 85 percent of your unhappiness comes from your relationships with others as well.

We Cannot Expect Anyone to Act Differently Towards Us, Than How We Act Towards Others
To build good relationships we must act exactly how we want others to act with us.

  • If we are trustworthy - we set the example for others to be trustworthy towards us
  • If we don't judge others - we set the example for others not to be judgmental towards us
  • If we don't criticize - we set the example for others not to criticize us
  • If we don't talk badly about others - we set the example for others not to talk badly about us
  • If we don't break our promises - we set the example for others not to break promises to us
  • If we are loyal - we set the example for others to be loyal to us
  • If we remember special days or occasions that are important to those around us - we set the example for others to remember special days or occasions that are important to us.
  • If we respect others - we set the example for others to respect us
  • If we are not selfish to others - we set the example for others not to be selfish with us
  • If we don't blame others - we set the example for others not to blame us
  • If we don't hold back our love - we set the example for others to give us love
  • If we don't get mad and start screaming - we set the example for others not to scream at us
  • If we don't lie to others - we set the example for others not to lie to us
  • If we are patient - we set the example for others to have patience with us.

We can be the person that we want others to be to us; through leading by example in everything we do; whether it is with our clients, our co-workers, our family or our friends.

with love,
Tammy Taylor

Ephesians 4:2
Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love.

Philippians 2:3-4

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others

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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Enough Of The Doom And Gloom...


Even mathematics proves it; if you are a POSITIVE person and you are around a NEGATIVE person you will BECOME A NEGATIVE PERSON.

And when you are NEGATIVE it directly affects your life and your health; studies show the more negative a person is, the more prone they are to getting sick more often; which can directly affect their family and their job.

And, when your family and job get affected you have to make changes.Tammy Taylor

I am a very POSITIVE PERSON but I am also a very Sensitive Person, which means I take things very personal; so when people around me are NEGATIVE it really affects me a lot. And for many years I let NEGATIVE PEOPLE really affect me without even knowing it; every time I was around them I would get REALLY TIRED and CRANKY and SAD.

Then one day I realized these NEGATIVE PEOPLE were causing this and I was letting them; so I decided to change the way I dealt with NEGATIVE PEOPLE.

The biggest problem were the ones who were my family members, people I love and co-workers; I could not just cut them out of my life, so I had to learn how to DEAL with them and not get NEGATIVE myself.

  • Only allowing them "SMALL" amounts of my ENERGY at a time REALLY WORKED.

  • I treat it like I am rationing my energy out to them, they "cannot" have it all, and they can only get some when I have EXTRA to share with them.

  • The one thing I have learned NOT TO DO is "do not" be around them when I am tired and my energy level is low.

  • And, when I am around them, I control the PATH of our conversation. I keep them on my POSITIVE PATH, I "do not" let them take me to their NEGATIVE PATH. But, those times that I do get pulled down their NEGATIVE PATH, I "jump off" and excuse myself to go do something very important that I forgot to do. (Do not worry, they will find someone else to talk to.)

How I keep the conversation on my POSITIVE PATH?

  • I am assertive, and I announce "Enough of the doom and gloom" and I change the subject.

  • I replace their negative statements with a positive one. Ultimately they will get sick of not being heard.

  • I Praise their good attributes; it helps them feel less of a need to be negative

  • I avoid being alone with them; I try to be around them when other people are around. This helps to "dilute" their impact.

Staying Healthy
ONE POSITIVE = 2-3 good days
ONE NEGATIVE = 1 bad day

Proof that Focusing your attention on the good stuff - is twice as powerful!

Proof Good moods strengthen your immune system and bad moods weaken it.

In an experiment by Arthur Stone at the University of New York, a new angle has been uncovered.

  • Something POSITIVE like an enjoyable time with a friend or getting a compliment on your work, increases your body's production of immune cells for two or three days.

  • On the other hand, something NEGATIVE, like criticizing yourself or arguing with someone depresses your immune system, but, only for one day.

More Proof Negativity effects Our Health

Anger, frustration, worry and negativity can be overwhelming. As Dr. Howard Friedman (professor of psychology at the University of California, Irvine) put it, "Depressed, anxious, angry or hostile people are twice as likely to suffer from heart disease, asthma, arthritis and headaches as are happier, more relaxed individuals."

Researchers have been finding that what makes people "catch a cold" is not what we thought. When they measure the amount of virus in the blood stream, it seems to have nothing to do with whether the person gets sick or not. Some people with lots of virus in their system did not get sick, and some with very little did get sick. One factor that was related to getting sick was stress. If the person experienced negative emotions, it was a good predictor of upcoming illness. The more negative feelings a person had during a given week, the more likely they were to "catch" a cold.

The way to tell whether a person is a NEGATIVE for you, is to ask yourself these questions the moment they leave:

  • Do you feel inspired about your ideas and ready to achieve your dreams?

  • Or, do you feel doubtful now because maybe your idea is not such a good one after all?

  • Have you been convinced your goal will take more of an effort than it's worth?

  • Or, that your chances are very small?

  • Do you feel in a worse mood because they talked about all the bad news in the paper or their own personal miseries, that they won't do anything to solve?

  • Do you feel less motivated?

  • Do you feel worse about yourself?

  • Are you more aware of your faults?

Once you can recognize the NEGATIVE PEOPLE in your life, the sooner you will be able to start changing their influence on you. So you can be more POSITIVE to achieve your dreams, and have a happier and healthier life.

with love,
Tammy Taylor

The prayer of St. Francis:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy.

Recognize that the person’s negativity is an expression of their inner doubt, despair and sadness. The way that you “sow” love and hope and peace and joy is by remaining positive and allowing yourself to become an instrument of peace in that moment.