Thursday, July 30, 2009

Too much to do, then DO LESS...

Too much to do, then DO LESS!

Do you ever have one of those weeks with so much to do at work you feel tired before your week even starts?

How do you get everything done and get through it?

  • Un-clutter your mind by sitting down with "nothing" in front of you but a pad of paper and a pen.

  • Then, write down your First TOP 10 things you need do this week, BUT not just any TOP 10, ONLY THE TOP 10 things that MAKE YOU MONEY.

  • If it does not MAKE MONEY you cannot do it this week.

Tammy Taylor"I was explaining this to one of my friends who owns her own business, and she got a little upset with me for saying focus on what makes money. She said; but Tammy, only focusing on money, isn't that greedy or too materialistic! What about my family and all of the other stuff I have to get done. I don't really like to think that I would put money before these other priorities.

I then explained to her our families are always our priority, so that is why you especially need to follow THE TOP 10 things that MAKE YOU MONEY list. We have to take care of our families, especially in these economic times; it takes even more money to pay for just the necessities our family has to have. And, when you are at work, if you are only focused on THE TOP 10 things that MAKE YOU MONEY, you do not have any wasted time spent on gossip, being unorganized or not being productive. You will actually get more done; make more money; and get home to your family earlier, to spend more time with them. Then she understood what I was talking about, and said she can definitely see how this would keep her more on track and keep her away from getting wrapped up in petty stuff that takes too much time and energy."

What needs to get done First?

1. Make your TOP 10 list of things that will MAKE YOU MONEY this week.
If it does not make you money, it does not get on your list this week.

2. Let Things Happen this week.
Let it happen first; then react to each situation as it comes up.

3. Sit Quietly, and Think about each thing you do, before you do it this week.
Is there a smarter, quicker, or more productive way of doing it?

4. Take a Break about every hour, for Only 2-3 minutes this week, just to clear your head.
Do not talk to anyone, or do anything; just walk outside and breathe.

Theologian Martin Luther knew what it was like to have too much to do when he said: "I have so much to do today; I’ll need to spend another hour on my knees."

With love,

Tammy Taylor

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Life Never Gets Less Stressful, We Just Get BETTER!

There will always be stress, but with experience we get wiser and deal with stress better.

It is so easy to get discouraged and just want to throw your hands up and say "FORGET IT I HAVE HAD ENOUGH"! But then what? Give up one set of problems and you get another set of Problems. At least you know the Problems you have right now. The new Problems could be worse and usually they are.Tammy Taylor

"It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer."
Author: Albert Einstein

Yesterday I was talking to one of my girlfriends about how much we have learned in the last 5 years, and how we deal with things better now than when we were younger.

She was saying about 10 years ago she quit a job that she really enjoyed, because she was young and did not know how to deal with the stress. She told me if she knew then what she knows now, she never would have quit that job. She said, yes the job was a lot of stress and there were problems, because the company was pretty new and they were just getting started, but she really loved it.

Over the last 10 years she has thought about that job a lot, and what she might have been able to do if she had stuck it out and grown with the company. She told herself, if I ever find another job that I enjoy no matter what, I will never quit again.

Hindsight is only wonderful if we can learn from it, and she said she sure did learn from it. Today she is a very, very successful business woman, and the biggest lesson she said she learned from that experience, that has helped her make much better decisions over the last 10 years is: "stick it out and work on it, and it will always get better".

She said, it took her about 4 years to finally find another job that she enjoyed as much as the job she quit, and she said no matter how stressful and no matter how bad of a day she might have, she always remembers back to when she had quit her other job, and how long it took her to finally find another job that she liked.

So, think about how much wiser you are today, and the choices you made back 10 years ago, or even 5 years ago. Well, in 1 year from today you will be wiser than you are today: Will you still like the choices you made today?

We don't know, because we do not know what the future brings, but I do know one thing for sure: throwing your hands up and saying "I quit" NEVER turns out better and, is "never" the right choice?

“When you are tough on yourself, life is going to be infinitely easier on you”
Zig Ziglar quote

You are stronger than you think and you can do it. It is not always easy to fight through tough times, but it is always worth it; especially when you finally get through it, and you look back and see how amazing you were, and how proud you are of yourself now. When someone else probably would have quit but you didn't, you stuck it out and made it happen.

"Yesterday I dared to struggle. Today I dare to win. "
Author: Bernadette Devlin

With love,

Tammy Taylor

For when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.

So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything.
James 1:3-4 NLT version

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Don't Focus on the Future and Lose Today...

Don't Focus on the Future and Lose Today

Sometimes doing the same thing every day is not exciting but when we can be content with our job and our life we will be happier and more successful.

"What makes us discontented with our condition is the absurdly exaggerated idea we have of the happiness of others." Author: French Proverb

We like excitement, we like new things, we like the thrill of new experiences and this is human nature; this is what makes us exciting people; but this excitement does not bring contentment, if we do not already have contentment. It can actually make us more miserable because when the excitement is over we are left with the same regular everyday stuff as before. When we realize contentment is inside of us and not in an experience or in things, we can fully enjoy every moment, when we do the exciting fun things in life.Tammy Taylor

"He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.” Author: Socrates

When we are content with our job, and we plan on staying at our job a long time, we will want to excel, so we put 100% of our energy into making our job better.

When we are not content with our job, it’s "impossible" to do our best and give 100%!

Because, when we are always thinking "there is a better job out there somewhere for me, I should be looking around and not just settling for what I have; I will keep my eyes & options open for new and better opportunities where I will really excel": this causes us to be distracted and not able to excel. People who treat their jobs as temporary, always keeping their options open, only doing enough to keep their job, are usually the first ones to get passed up for promotions.

It is the people who just dig in and say, "I will work today at this job as if I am going to work here for the rest of my life; I am going to be the very best I can be at what I am doing right now", are the people who get the promotions, the raises, and the job offers from other companies.

Have you ever kept thinking that there is a better life out there, somewhere; compared to your current one you are living?

I have a friend who has been married since she was 17 years old to a very nice man, she did not pursue the career like she had dreamed of, instead she wanted to have children and be a stay at home mom. But she was never content with this; she kept thinking she was missing out on something. She wanted a stable home but she kept moving her family around a lot, about every 6 months to a year. She wanted her husband to stay at one job, but then she kept telling him his job wasn’t good enough, he needs to find a better job; she wanted her kids to be well behaved and not hyper-active, but when she wanted them to behave she would yell at them to behave. She did the opposite of everything she wanted and the problem was everything she wanted, she was sabotaging. She thought what she wanted was going to be a place or a thing or a person.

Then one day she was so tired after so many years of searching, she stopped searching. She slowed down and just sat back and started enjoying the everyday things in life. And, that is when she finally realized she had everything she had ever wanted all along and she was content.

But she did not sit back for very long, because when she was finally content, that is exactly when all the excitement started happening, the opportunities just opened up, and she started realizing all of her dreams were coming true.

She was able to start the career that she always wanted; her husband retired from his steady job (and was able to help her). She had her stable home, her children were all doing wonderful, and her grandchildren are amazing.

With love,

Tammy Taylor

1Timothy 6:6-7 NIV
"godliness with contentment is great gain.

For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it."

Thursday, July 9, 2009

When Things Are Going Bad...

When Things Are Going Bad - It Is Easy To Become Envious...

Did someone you know go on a family vacation recently and you felt like, “how can they afford a vacation in this economy...”

When things are going good, people do not get Envious very easy; Tammy Taylorbut when things are going bad people get Envious really easy.

When Envy starts taking over, people worry about what others have all the time. This makes them even more insecure, because they start thinking they can't compete with the world and they give up. Jealousy and envy is a poisonous emotion; it can ruin your entire day or even your life.

Small Example:
When people are busy and making good money and someone drives up in a new car, everyone thinks it is great and congratulates them; but when people are not busy and not making as much money, then when someone drives up in a New Car they start trash talking about them.

Instead of trash talking and feeding Envy say:
“I would really like a New Car, I am going to work 5 days a week instead of 3 days a week, to get one.”

OR say...
“I am perfectly happy with what I have and I think it is great they got a new car.”

No Matter What, Be Happy with Yourself and be Happy for Others!!!

When we see only our weaknesses and only other people’s strengths, it is very easy to be envious; but if we could get inside their body and mind for only one day, we would see we are all the same; we all have our weaknesses.

I have always said,

We all love to do what we are good at, and the more we FOCUS on what we are good at, the more we excel at it and the more CONFIDENCE we have, the more CONFIDENCE we have the LESS ENVIOUS we are.

"The people who concentrate more on their strengths and what they are good at, are usually not envious people; because they are concentrating on themselves ( what they need to do and what they want) not on anyone else."

But for some reason most people have it backwards: they THINK THEY SHOULD FOCUS ON THEIR WEAKNESSES; this will only cause more insecurity which leads to envy.

When we FOCUS on our weaknesses it is very difficult to excel, and we start getting down on ourselves, making us insecure; and then we start looking around at how good others are doing; ENVY takes over and makes us miserable.

So, know that you have amazing strengths and talents, that no one else has; and when you concentrate only on WHAT YOU CAN DO - NOT WHAT YOU CAN’T DO, you will build your confidence and realize how wonderful you are.

With love,
Tammy Taylor

1 Corinthians 13:4
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

Tammy Taylor Nails

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Are you over doing it...

Are you over doing it...

Are you over doing it to the point it is affecting your health?

If you get run down and make yourself sick trying to do everything for everyone, how are you going to take care of yourself and those who really need you? And how are you going to be able to work?


Give yourself permission to say "NO MORE! I Tammy Taylorcan only do so much, and that is it".

I have 2 really good friends that I love very much, who tried to do so much for everyone around them that they both got very sick; one could not get out of bed, and the other one was in so much pain she needed to walk with a cane. I knew they were trying to do too much but I thought they would just wake up one day and say "NO MORE"! I am overdoing it; I need to LIMIT my volunteering and trying to help everyone.

But, they did not, and they both ended up getting sick a week apart. When I saw this, I immediately stepped in and did for them what they would not do for themselves; I said "NO MORE". I told them everyone loves them, even if they say "NO" and anyone who gets mad or doesn't love them anymore because they say "NO", than those are probably the same people who made them sick.

I have another friend who has always said "I DO NOT DO ANYTHING I DO NOT WANT TO DO".. I always argued with her, saying that is not how the world is; you just can’t say I don’t do anything I don’t want to do, that is very selfish. But, as I get older, I realize there is a lot of Wisdom in that way of thinking, even though it is not totally practical when you have a family, friends and a job.

  • But, I do think somewhere in the middle of both of these camps of thought, we can find balance.

These are the 2 Extremes:

I said “NO” because I Do Not Do Anything I Do Not Want To Do"…. (We know this is selfish and not practical especially when it is our family, friends or job.)


I said “YES” because they asked me; if I say no, I feel bad because I am afraid I will hurt their feelings or they will be mad at me”. (So, we say “Yes” even though this is very unhealthy for us.)

Neither a strict "NO" nor an easy "YES" is good for us, so we need to find our BALANCE.

And, since our Balance Scale leans more towards saying “YES” too often, we need more practice saying "NO", to Balance us out.

  • Practice saying NO. This is a very important word! Say it as often as you can, just to hear the word come out of your mouth. Say No out loud when you are alone. Practice phrases with NO in them, such as: "No, I can’t do that", or "No, I don’t want to go there." Try it for simple things first; then build your way up to harder situations.

  • Stop saying YES. Try to pause, or take a breath, before responding to someone’s request. You may want to answer requests with "I need to think about it first, I’ll get back to you" or "Let me check my schedule and call you back". Use any phrase that you feel comfortable with, that gives you time before you automatically respond with YES.

  • Take small breaks, even if you feel guilty. You won’t always feel guilty, but most likely in the beginning you will.

  • Walk slowly; to slow down your pace.

  • Discover what gives you pleasure, for example, reading, watching videos, going to a park, and listening to music; then give yourself permission to do those things.

  • Ask someone to help you with something. I know this is a hard one, but you can do it!

Do what you can do, and do what you really want to do; and to the rest say “NO”.

“This holiday weekend would be a perfect time to practice saying "NO MORE" so you can just ENJOY yourself and HAVE FUN!!!”

With love,

Tammy Taylor

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7 NLV