Friday, April 24, 2009

“I can't”, should not be in our vocabulary!

"I can't", should not be in our vocabulary!
Tammy Taylor

I can't, defeats us even before we get up in the morning
I can't, stops us from achieving our goals
I can't, makes us depressed
I can't, makes us negative

I can't, makes us no fun to be around
I can't, creates fear
I can't, stops us from dreaming
I can't, stops us from making more money

These are only a few reasons why "I can't” should not be part of our vocabulary.

To do something that you think you can't do, have a "3 buddy system".

Instead of saying I can't, say I am going to find someone to help me.
Don't try to do it on your own, that is much harder and not as much fun.

I love the "3 buddy system". I know I need to exercise to stay healthy, especially because I sit all day. I like to walk and do yoga for exercise, and if I did not have my friends doing it with me, I would not do it. When you have a "3 buddy system", one of the 3 of you will be motivated to do it and will motivate the others. To try and do this on my own would be so difficult; I would make every excuse in the book why not to do it.

To do something that you think you can't do: set "Realistic Goals".

Most people fail and think they can't do something because they expect too much, and they set their goals too high to start.

A goal is not to show you what you can’t do, so you feel horrible and then stop setting goals.

A goal is meant to be achieved and build up your confidence, so you can see what you CAN do…
Start by setting baby step goals, that you know you can achieve. We need to learn to walk before we can run.

Unrealistic Goal - Example:
I have always wanted to do mountain climbing.
I have never taken a lesson but I am going to go climb Mt. Everest next week.
This is unrealistic and you have just set yourself up for failure.

Realistic Goal - Example:
I have always wanted to do mountain climbing.
I am going to get 2 friends together who would like to do mountain climbing with me, and start practicing and taking lessons.

With a "3 buddy system" and a "Realistic Goal" you will be able to achieve this goal.

Unrealistic Goal - Example:
It takes me 2 hours to do a full set of nails and 1 ½ hrs to do fill-ins, and I want to book my clients every hour on the hour.
I am going to start booking my clients on the hour tomorrow.
This is unrealistic and you have set yourself up for failure.

Realistic Goal - Example:
It takes me 2 hours to do a full set of nails and 1 ½ hrs to do fill-ins, and I want to
"learn” to book my clients every hour on the hour.
I want to start training on how to do faster nails, so I need to call:
1(800) 93-TAMMY, and get my own Personal Company Educator, and then go to
sign into the Pro website and click on Nail FAQ’s by Topic and start learning everything I can, about doing faster nails.

And, when the next Tammy Taylor class comes up, I am going to book it.

  • I need my "3 buddy system" so I will get 2 of my friends to be my guinea pigs, so I can practice on them every week, in between doing my clients.
  • I will tell them what my goal is and tell them to watch me as I am doing their nails, and let me know when I start slowing down or getting off track.
  • I will give them my step-by-step system that I should be following, and also have them watch the clock and time me.

My goal will start out with baby steps; I want to increase my speed 5 minutes per nail service, every week until I can do all of my nail services in 1 hour or less.

With a "3 buddy system" and a "Realistic Goal" you will be able to achieve this goal.

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The Little Engine that could

A little steam engine had a long train of cars to pull. She went along very well till she came to a steep hill. But then, no matter how hard she tried, she could not move the long train of cars. She pulled and she pulled. She puffed and she puffed. Choo! Choo! But no! The cars would not go up the hill.

At last she left the train and started up the track alone. Do you think she had stopped working? No, indeed! She was going for help. "Surely I can find someone to help me", she thought. Choo, choo!

Pretty soon she saw a big steam engine standing on a side track. He looked very big and strong. Running alongside, she looked up and said: "Will you help me over the hill with my train of cars? It is so long and heavy I can't get it over." The big steam engine looked down at the little steam engine. Then he said: "Don't you see that I am through with my day's work? I have been rubbed and scoured ready for my next run. No, I cannot help you.”

The little steam engine was sad, but she went on, Choo, choo! After a while she came to a little steam engine just like herself. She ran alongside and said: "Will you help me over the hill with my train of cars? It is so long and so heavy that I can't get it over." "Yes, indeed!" said this little steam engine. "I'll be glad to help you, if I can."

So the little steam engine’s started back to where the train of cars had been standing. Both little steam engines went to the head of the train, one behind the other. Puff, puff! Chug, choo! Off they started!

Slowly the cars began to move. Slowly they climbed the steep hill. As they climbed, each little steam engine began to sing: "I-think-I-can! I-think-I-can! I-think-I-can! I-think-I-can! I-think-I-can! I-think-I-can! I think I can - I think I can - I think I can I think I can--" And they did! Very soon they were over the hill and going down the other side.

Now they were on the plain again; and the little steam engine could pull her train herself. So she thanked the little engine who had come to help her, and said good-by. And she went merrily on her way, singing: "I-thought-I-could! I-thought-I-could! I-thought-I-could! I-thought-I-could! I thought I could - I thought I could - I thought I could - I thought I could - I thought I could - I thought I could I thought I could --"

Teamwork is how this little engine was able to get up that hill, but could you imagine how much faster that little engine could have gotten up that hill with the "3 buddy system"?

with love,

Tammy Taylor

Ties That Bind

We find Solomon's classic exposition on the value of friendship in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

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Saturday, April 18, 2009

SLOW… WINS!!! ... ... ... "gift of time"...

SLOW… WINS!!!Tammy Taylor

When we give ourselves the "gift of time", and we slow down the pace, we will win!!!

When we give ourselves the "gift of time", we will learn patience.

When we are PATIENT we are better Nail Techs

When we are PATIENT we are better friends

When we are PATIENT we are better parents

When we are PATIENT we are better children

When we are PATIENT we are better leaders

When we are PATIENT we are better employees



  • Slow down and listen to the people around you, when they are talking to you.When we give ourselves the "gift of time" to listen to the people around us, we will learn patience.
    Do you ever cut anyone off when they are talking; because you have something you think is more important to say, or do you finish their sentence because they are taking too long to say it?
  • Slow down and think before you do anything; we make mistakes when we are not patient, and we do not think about what we are going to do first before we do it.When we give ourselves the "gift of time" to think about what we need to do, we will learn patience.
    Have you ever done anything you wish you had not have done? And, you know if you just would have thought about it, just a little more, you would have done it differently?
  • Slow down and think before you say anything; know what is going to come out of your mouth before it actually leaves your tongue.
    When we give ourselves the "gift of time" to think before we speak, we will learn patience
    Have you ever been shocked at what just came out of your mouth, and you wish you would not have said it?
  • Slow down; when we get in a hurry we make careless mistakes; and then we get mad at ourselves and everyone around us.
    Have you ever been running late; which got you unorganized and you forgot something, and had to turn around and go back; and you got so mad you just wanted to yell at the first person who you came in contact with? Or, did you just want to yell at yourself?
    When we give ourselves the "gift of time", we will learn patience.
Slowing down in the Salon will increase your speed
  • Slow down when you are running behind with your clients: have you ever heard the saying "the hurrier I go the behinder I get"; well that is exactly what happens when you start hurrying when doing nails. You will start doing things like using brush cleaner instead of nail liquid, or spilling your polish remover, or forgetting your 2nd coat of primer. Slow down your pace and stick to your step-by-step system.
  • Give yourself the "gift of time" and excuse yourself to go to the restroom.
    Then regroup; come back to your client and start again, but make sure you stick to every step in your system. When you skip a step and get unorganized, it will not only take you longer now, but it will take you longer later when your clients come back in 2 weeks for their fill-ins.
When you give yourself the "gift of time", you will learn to have patience with your job and your clients.
  • Slow down when you want to do better, faster nails.When you are just starting out in a Salon, it is easy to get stressed out and expect too much too soon.
    My first set of nails took 8 hours! And, with my step-by-step system I was able to do a full set of nails in under 20 minutes. When you have a system you will be able to increase your speed and quality, when you are doing the same thing over and over the same way.
  • Give yourself the "gift of time", and book your appointments far enough apart, so you can focus on your system, and doing beautiful nails without feeling stressed.
When you give yourself the "gift of time", you will learn to have patience with your nails.

Do not push yourself so hard; do not over schedule yourself; do not try to do everything right now; the joy is not when you're finished, the joy is doing it; give yourself the "gift of more time".
The Tortoise and the Hare

There once was a speedy hare who bragged about how fast he could run. Tired of hearing him boast, Slow and Steady, the tortoise, challenged him to a race. All the animals in the forest gathered to watch.

Hare ran down the road for a while and then and paused to rest. He looked back at Slow and Steady and cried out, "How do you expect to win this race when you are walking along at your slow, slow pace?"

Hare stretched himself out alongside the road and fell asleep, thinking, "There is plenty of time to relax."

Slow and Steady walked and walked. He never, ever stopped until he came to the finish line.

The animals who were watching cheered so loudly for Tortoise, they woke up Hare.

Hare stretched and yawned and began to run again, but it was too late: Tortoise was over the line.

After that, Hare always reminded himself, "Don't brag about your lightning pace, for Slow and Steady won the race!"
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With Patience comes Wisdom
With love,Tammy Taylor

I love this prayer; so much is said in such few words and it is so easy to remember.

Serenity Prayer
by Reinhold Neibuhr

grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

"Don't Worry be Happy"

"Don't Worry be Happy"Tammy Taylor


Only 8 percent of our worries are actually over legitimate troubles.

Dr. Walter Cavert did a study of the things we worry about. He discovered that:

40 percent of the things we worry about never happen,
30 percent of our worries concern the past,
12 percent of our worries are needless worries about our health,
10 percent of our worries are insignificant or petty
(things that will really not make much of a difference in our lives one way or another)
We have spent 92 percent of our emotional energies over things that won't happen or things we can't change.TRUE or FALSE?

Worry helps me cope with things .......... (False)
If I keep worrying bad things will not happen to me ... (False)
Worry helps me solve problems ........... (False)
If I worry I will be motivated to do things ................... (False)
Worry prepares me for anything .......... (False)
Worry will ruin my life .......... (TRUE)
Worry will rob my joy ............ (TRUE)

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Shake It Off and Step Up
A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule 'braying' -- or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer felt sorry for the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together and told them what had happened and asked them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

Initially, the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back: he should shake it off and step up! This is what the old mule did, blow after blow.

"Shake it off and step up... shake it off and step up... shake it off and step up!" He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought "panic" and just kept right on shaking it off and stepping up!

You guessed it! It wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him, actually ended up blessing him. And, all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.

"If this mule can do it, I know we can do it. Instead of worrying about something, turn it into POSITIVE ACTION for change; by changing the way we look at the situation, we can change the way we react."
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Below is a common vicious cycle that happens when we worry, and, as you can see the more we worry the worse it gets; so the only solution is break the cycle and stop worrying!

Money Problems = WORRY = Bad attitude at work = Less Money = Money problems = WORRY = Bad attitude at work = Less Money and so on and so on………………………………………………!!

Worry makes us tired; and have you ever tried to make good decisions, have patience with other people or get motivated to do something when you are tired; it is almost impossible.

How Can we turn our worries into a POSITIVE ACTION?

Let's stop worrying 92% of the time over things that won't happen
or things we cannot change. Then we are not tired, and we can get motivated to make the POSITIVE changes that we need today.
we take today, will help take care of most of the worries for tomorrow..
Below are 3 worries for tomorrow that you can solve today, just by starting a POSITIVE ACTION:
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- Worry #1
I don't know if I will have enough clients next week to pay my rent.

PROMOTE, Promote, Promote…
Plant your seeds today, and you will have a beautiful garden tomorrow. Promoting your business is like planting seeds; it seems like you are not doing anything productive but getting dirty while you are doing it, because there is no instant gratification; but when you see your garden blooming (your clientele growing), you will know how productive you really were.

Plant your seeds by passing out 20 flyers, or brochures, or business cards this week, and give away 10 free full-sets to people who work in the service industry who can REFER you clients.

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- Worry #2

I am not doing good enough nails to get a better job in a high end Salon.

PRACTICE, Practice, Practice…
Practice is like watering your garden; again it seems like you are doing nothing productive because there is no instant gratification; But when you start seeing those beautiful nails start blooming, you will know how productive you were.

Start practicing on your Practice Sheet, and do 100 practice nails today; Watch 30 minutes of one of your favorite Tammy Taylor videos; Then do 10 free sets of nails and include their first 2
fill-ins until you feel confident.
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- Worry #3
With the economy like it is; will my clients stop getting their nails done?

INCENTIVE PROGRAMS, Incentive, Incentive…
Give your clients, "refer a friend" incentives; this is like little bees pollinating your garden; your clients are the little bees telling all their friends, so you will continue to have a beautiful garden.

Post a letter at your station and let every one of your clients know you are doing a client referral incentive program.

Give each client who refers you a client a discount on their next service, or a free pedicure when they get their nails done.
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You can't wring your hands and roll up your sleeves at the same time.
-Pat Schroeder
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Don't Worry, be Happy and have a wonderful Easter with your family and friends.
With love,
Tammy Taylor

Worry is nothing new to our generation; it has been around 1000's of years.
One of my favorite verses, that helps keep worry in perspective is:

Matthew 6:34 (NIV)
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Author: Jesus
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Saturday, April 4, 2009

Never QUIT the Race an “Inch” From the Finish Line

Never QUIT the Race an "Inch" From the Finish LineTammy Taylor

"When you get into a difficult place and it seems like everything is against you, and you feel like you cannot do this one minute longer: NEVER QUIT! Because that is exactly where you want to
be; this is just the place and time, where it always turns around; and if you QUIT, you will never experience the success that WAS going to be yours.
One of the worst things that I see all the time: is when people QUIT just an "inch" from the finish line. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize
Tammy Taylorhow close they were to success, when they gave up."

Preaching about the importance of PERSISTANCE, and NOT QUITTING, is easy. Actually experiencing failure and continuing on; now that's tough.

I put together a little collection of some very inspirational and famous Entrepreneurs for you; that I felt did just that; they experienced many failures and setbacks, and NEVER QUIT.
When you read about these famous Entrepreneurs you will realize they were no different than the average person; they WERE NOT EXPERIENCED; they WERE NOT RICH; they WERE NOT WELL EDUCATED: all they had was PERSISTANCE!
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Great Quotes from Famous women Business Owners"I had to make my own living and my own opportunity! But I made it! Don't sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them!"

-Madam C.J. Walker, creator of beauty products and the first female self-made millionaire

"The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try."
-Debbi Fields, founder of Mrs. Fields Cookies

"Don't ever let anyone tell you that something is too competitive. Once you subtract the people who don't work very hard, or the people who aren't as good as you, your competition shrinks' dramatically."
-Maggie Mason, founder of Mighty Goods
Mary Kay Ash (Mary Kay Cosmetics)Mary Kathlyn Wagner was born in the state of Texas in nineteen eighteen. For much of her childhood, she cared for her sick father, while her mother worked long hours at a public eating place. Mary Kay married Ben Rogers, when she was seventeen years old. They had three children before he left home to serve in World War II. When he returned, their marriage ended. Mary Kay looked for a job so she could support her children.

Quote from Mary Kay Ash:"When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you, and be a loser. The choice is yours and yours alone. Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure."

-Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics

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Milton Hershey (Hershey Chocolate)Milton Hershey had a long path to the top of the chocolate industry. Hershey dropped out of school in the 4th grade, and took an apprenticeship with a printer, only to be fired. He then became a candy-maker in Lancaster, PA. After studying the business for 4 years, Hershey started three "unsuccessful" candy companies in Philadelphia, Chicago and New York.

Simon Cowell ("American Idol" and "X-Factor")Nowadays, Simon Cowell is a pop icon, and a very wealthy man. But early in life, Cowell faced his fair share of struggles. At age 15, Cowell dropped out of school and bounced around jobs.

Cowell eventually formed his own publishing company, E&S Music. Unfortunately, E&S Music folded in its first year. Cowell ended up with a lot of debt, and was forced to move back in with his parents.
Thomas Edison (Invented the light bulb)
When he was a young boy, Thomas Edison's parents pulled him out of school after teachers called him "stupid" and "un-teachable." Edison spent his teenage years working and being fired from various jobs, culminating in his termination from a telegraph company at age 21. Edison is famous for saying that genius is "1% inspiration and 99% perspiration."

Walt Disney (Disneyland and Disney World)As a young man, Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star Newspaper, because his boss thought he lacked creativity. He went on to form an animation company called Laugh-O-Gram Films in 1921. Using his natural salesmanship abilities, Disney was able to raise $15,000 for the company ($181,000 in 2008 dollars). However, he made a deal with a New York distributor, and when the distributor went out of business, Disney was forced to shut Laugh-O-Gram down. He could barely pay his rent and even resorted to eating dog food.

These Entrepreneurs are just regular people who would not quit…

Remember the only difference between success and failure: is NOT QUITTING.

You Can Do It!

With love,Tammy Taylor

I love to remember these truths every day; they help keep everything in perspective:

I asked for Strength.........
And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for Wisdom.........
And God gave me Problems to solve.
I asked for Prosperity..........
And God gave me a Brain and Brawn to work.
I asked for Courage.........
And God gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love.........
And God gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favors.........
And God gave me Opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted ........
I received everything I needed!

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